Paradoxical Commandments

27 04 2010

Something that is keeping me alive right now, and still somewhat in love with what I do on a daily basis:

The Paradoxical Commandments
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.
© Copyright Kent M. Keith 1968, renewed 2001

Currently can’t stand Christianese

21 04 2010

Went for my second counselling session last Friday, and talked about some of the issues that have been bothering me, specifically those to do with my past and what’s happening right now. The one thing I don’t particularly worry about is the future, as I really can say that I trust God with it.

Now, if you’re reading this and thinking that this is going to be  an in-your-face-with-my-faith kind of post, it isn’t.

I heard some shocking news from a student of mine today, and I was brought back to the knowledge that whilst it is true that we are loved, and that this knowledge should guide our every step and shape our perspectives, the truth of the matter is that trotting out these same truths and this same knowledge does not help when the reality of life is that it gets mucky sometimes. It’s not always that the statement, no matter how sincerely expressed, that everything will be okay, is inadequate.

Because sometimes it’s not. Things we want to happen fall through the cracks, and people we care about and want to show love to hurt us, and life throws shit at us.

But. “Hope is not about proving anything. It’s about choosing to believe this one thing, that love is bigger than any grim, bleak shit anyone can throw at us.” – Anne Lamott

Counselling: session 1

1 04 2010

On the bus on my way back home, reflecting on the counselling session I just finished.

The counsellor was sympathetic but not afraid to berate too when the time was right. She gave me room to speak and vent but also shared of her own life lessons, when appropriate.

Welcome advice. Being able to talk about problems with and not being afraid of judgement and prior knowledge etc was a releasing, wonderful thing. At the same time, I guess one doesn’t go to counselling unless one is interested in going. That sounds like a flip statement, but it’s also very real: it would certainly have been a very different situation if I were being required to go. As it was, being there and being fully cognisant of issues I have helped the conversation.

It was humbling and beautiful to observe the work of a counsellor tonight. That I could be a part of this work too, eventually, is a significant, almost foreign thought. Next session in two weeks.